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the essays of montaigne, v15-第10部分
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As to the confusion of children; besides that the gravest legislators
ordain and affect it in their republics; it touches not the women; where
this passion is; I know not how; much better seated:
〃Saepe etiam Juno; maxima coelicolam;
Conjugis in culpa flagravit quotidiana。〃
'〃Often was Juno; greatest of the heaven…dwellers; enraged by her
husband's daily infidelities。〃Idem; ibid。'
When jealousy seizes these poor souls; weak and incapable of resistance;
'tis pity to see how miserably it torments and tyrannises over them; it
insinuates itself into them under the title of friendship; but after it
has once possessed them; the same causes that served for a foundation of
good…will serve them for a foundation of mortal hatred。 'Tis; of all the
diseases of the mind; that which the most things serve for aliment and
the fewest for remedy: the virtue; health; merit; reputation of the
husband are incendiaries of their fury and ill…will:
〃Nullae sunt inimicitiae; nisi amoris; acerbae。〃
'〃No enmities are bitter; save that of love。〃
(Or:) 〃No hate is implacable except the hatred of love〃
Propertius; ii。 8; 3。'
This fever defaces and corrupts all they have of beautiful and good
besides; and there is no action of a jealous woman; let her be how chaste
and how good a housewife soever; that does not relish of anger and
wrangling; 'tis a furious agitation; that rebounds them to an extremity
quite contrary to its cause。 This held good with one Octavius at Rome。
Having lain with Pontia Posthumia; he augmented love with fruition; and
solicited with all importunity to marry her: unable to persuade her; this
excessive affection precipitated him to the effects of the most cruel and
mortal hatred: he killed her。 In like manner; the ordinary symptoms of
this other amorous disease are intestine hatreds; private conspiracies;
and cabals:
〃Notumque furens quid faemina possit;〃
'〃And it is known what an angry woman is capable of doing。〃
AEneid; V。 21。'
and a rage which so much the more frets itself; as it is compelled to
excuse itself by a pretence of good…will。
Now; the duty of chastity is of a vast extent; is it the will that we
would have them restrain? This is a very supple and active thing; a
thing very nimble; to be stayed。 How? if dreams sometimes engage them so
far that they cannot deny them: it is not in them; nor; peradventure; in
chastity itself; seeing that is a female; to defend itself from lust and
desire。 If we are only to trust to their will; what a case are we in;
then? Do but imagine what crowding there would be amongst men in
pursuance of the privilege to run full speed; without tongue or eyes;
into every woman's arms who would accept them。 The Scythian women put
out the eyes of all their slaves and prisoners of war; that they might
have their pleasure of them; and they never the wiser。 O; the furious
advantage of opportunity! Should any one ask me; what was the first
thing to be considered in love matters; I should answer that it was how
to take a fitting time; and so the second; and so the third'tis a point
that can do everything。 I have sometimes wanted fortune; but I have also
sometimes been wanting to myself in matters of attempt。 God help him;
who yet makes light of this! There is greater temerity required in this
age of ours; which our young men excuse under the name of heat; but
should women examine it more strictly; they would find that it rather
proceeds from contempt。 I was always superstitiously afraid of giving
offence; and have ever had a great respect for her I loved: besides; he
who in this traffic takes away the reverence; defaces at the same time
the lustre。 I would in this affair have a man a little play the child;
the timorous; and the servant。 If not this; I have in other bashfulness
whereof altogether in things some air of the foolish Plutarch makes
mention; and the course of my life has been divers ways hurt and
blemished with it; a quality very ill suiting my universal form: and;
indeed; what are we but sedition and discrepancy? I am as much out of
countenance to be denied as I am to deny; and it so much troubles me to
be troublesome to others that on occasion when duty compels me to try the
good…will of any one in a thing that is doubtful and that will be
chargeable to him; I do it very faintly; and very much against my will:
but if it be for my own particular (whatever Homer truly says; that
modesty is a foolish virtue in an indigent person); I commonly commit it
to a third person to blush for me; and deny those who employ me with the
same difficulty: so that it has sometimes befallen me to have had a mind
to deny; when I had not the power to do it。
'Tis folly; then; to attempt to bridle in women a desire that is so
powerful in them; and so natural to them。 And when I hear them brag of
having so maidenly and so temperate a will; I laugh at them: they retire
too far back。 If it be an old toothless trot; or a young dry consumptive
thing; though it be not altogether to be believed; at least they say it
with more similitude of truth。 But they who still move and breathe; talk
at that ridiculous rate to their own prejudice; by reason that
inconsiderate excuses are a kind of self…accusation; like a gentleman; a
neighbour of mine; suspected to be insufficient:
〃Languidior tenera cui pendens sicula beta;
Numquam se mediam sustulit ad tunicam;〃
'Catullus; lxvii。 2; i。 The sense is in the context。'
who three or four days after he was married; to justify himself; went
about boldly swearing that he had ridden twenty stages the night before:
an oath that was afterwards made use of to convict him of his ignorance
in that affair; and to divorce him from his wife。 Besides; it signifies
nothing; for there is neither continency nor virtue where there are no
opposing desires。 It is true; they may say; but we will not yield;
saints themselves speak after that manner。 I mean those who boast in
good gravity of their coldness and insensibility; and who expect to be
believed with a serious countenance; for when 'tis spoken with an
affected look; when their eyes give the lie to their tongue; and when
they talk in the cant of their profession; which always goes against the
hair; 'tis good sport。 I am a great servant of liberty and plainness;
but there is no remedy; if it be not wholly simple or childish; 'tis
silly; and unbecoming ladies in this commerce; and presently runs into
impudence。 Their disguises and figures only serve to cosen fools; lying
is there in its seat of honour; 'tis a by…way; that by a back…door leads
us to truth。 If we cannot curb their imagination; what would we have
from them。 Effects? There are enough of them that evade all foreign
communication; by which chastity may be corrupted:
〃Illud saepe facit; quod sine teste facit;〃
'〃He often does that which he does without a witness。〃
Martial; vii。 62; 6。'
and those which we fear the least are; peradventure; most to be feared;
their
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